Three peat.

A coworker of mine died last night. This is the third time a coworker of mine has passed away. I've only been here 7 years.

He was riding his motorcycle to meet his family (which includes two kids) for a long holiday weekend. There was an accident, and now he's gone.

He joined the team several months ago, and I had really enjoyed working with him. He was smart, technical and had a lot of customer empathy. He was also just an all-around nice guy, always smiling.

One of the last times I spoke to him was at a meeting a couple of weeks ago. He was telling us about how he'd bought three new motorcycles in the last year, upgrading as he got more familiar with bikes.

My heart goes out to Scott's family. I can't imagine what they are going through right now. Eventually work will return to normal and we will make it by without him. But there's now a couple of children and a wife who will never get their daddy and husband back.

My husband is a wonderful man who knows me so well. He was in the middle of an important three hour meeting when he heard. He left the meeting to see how I was feeling, because well, he knew how I'd be feeling. People deal with grief in such different ways. Myself, I mainly sit in my office and cry. And then I look for ways to help by offering skills such as project managing things like getting a memorial written up in the company newsletter. Another coworker rails angrily against the dangers of motorcycles. It's just two different ways of dealing with the same feeling.

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[kz]

I am very sorry for such a terrible loss. I'm glad you have the support you need.

I hope his family finds the support they need.

I agree that people grieve in many different ways. Can be confusing or even frusterating at times when I'm in the middle of it all.

Wishing you all peace and fond memories.